I want to begin this post by saying that if you have ever struggled with comparison (or are caught up in it at the moment) you are most definitely not alone. With our lives and businesses being so highly visible these days, and with so many people creating and doing incredible things in the world, it is easy to fall into the habit of measuring ourselves against them.
As I sit at the beginning of this fresh new year, I feel excitement and anticipation about the magic that lies ahead, but at the same time I have a calm sense of detachment and ease about what will unfold.
Sometimes we need to learn our lessons the hard way. Sometimes it takes a few loving knocks over the head from the Universe before we finally receive the message. Sometimes we grow the most through challenge.
Over the past 12 months I have learnt a lot about surrender, trust and flow as a result of the various waves of change that have thrust themselves into my life. At times I have felt like a victim to these changes. Like they were happening to me and I was just an innocent bystander. This is when I have struggled with them the most.
I think we all yearn to feel like a success in our life. I know I do. I have always been a high achiever and big dreamer. I have always stretched myself to go for more and often placed quite high expectations upon myself.
In many ways I love this quality in myself as it means I am always expanding, growing and evolving. But there can also be a downside to this tendency.
I believe in the power of desire. Of it’s expansive nature. Of how it calls us to become more.
I believe in dreaming big, in stretching ourselves to new levels and of following our heart wherever it calls us.
But do you know how to desire for more, while also being happy with where you are?
The journey of self awareness and conscious living that I not only practise in my own life, but also now have the privilege of teaching, never ceases to amaze me. There always seems to be more to uncover and just when you think you’ve got yourself pegged, you discover yet another sneaky pattern that is unconsciously sabotaging your life without you even realising it.
I knew from about the age of 20 that I wanted to create a career as a life coach. Nothing resonated more deeply with me than the thought of teaching the principles that had transformed my life, to others. I would set goals, create vision boards and imagine the career I wanted, but I never did anything about it. When it came time to act, I felt completely stuck. For years, I felt the strong pull of my innermost dreams, but it took another 9 years before I mustered the courage to act on them.
Many of us are receiving the inner call to be more authentic, express more of what feels true to us and march to the beat of our own drum.
We want to feel free to be ourselves without the paralysing self-questioning patterns that often arise when we attempt to embody a new way of being.
In order to be more of our true selves, we may need to let go of some old patterns.