On the day that I moved in to my beautiful new one bedroom apartment in North Bondi, I woke up with a single word ringing in my head. Foundations.
This is typically how my inner guidance speaks to me. It plays the same word over and over through my mind until I finally get the message.
I didn’t realise how spot on this intuitive wisdom was until I made it through my big move and found myself sitting in my new home feeling completely stressed, scattered and disconnected. My body was tight and rigid. My head was racing with incessant thoughts. I was struck down with a 3 day migraine. And in very uncharacteristic Connie fashion, I found myself living on take away food for an entire week.
The move completely knocked me off kilter.
Once I started to find my feet, I took some time out to stop and reflect on what had just happened.
I realised (with rather confronting clarity) where there were some chronic cracks appearing in my inner foundations. Where those supportive practises that helped me care for myself, were not as strong and stable as I needed them to be. Where the relationship between me and me, had become a little rocky.
And the powerful thing about living on your own is that there is nowhere to hide. The spotlight was right on me. Without all of the distractions and busyness around me, I had no choice but to face up to the fact that there was some work to do.
When The Cracks Begin To Show
When my journey into health, wellness, self development and spirituality began, I clung to my foundational practises for dear life. Daily meditation was my lifeline, I couldn’t get through the day without my green juice, and I would leave work excitedly yearning for the deep stretch of yoga class.
As I became stronger in myself, my reliance on these practises faded and I somehow convinced myself I no longer needed them. I was too busy running a business, managing my relationships, and juggling my to do list. My mind seemed to skim over the details and constantly drift to bigger and more enticing goals.
And so as my journey continued, I caught myself slipping at times. I would prioritise clients sessions over going to the gym. If I had an early start and had limited time I would scrap my morning routine. If I was tired or feeling lazy, making a green smoothie seemed like way too much effort, so I would grab something quick and easy on the run.
These seemed like small and harmless omissions at the time, but over time they accumulated in to big gaping holes in my self care. I found myself frequently feeling unsupported and scattered. External events knocked me around more than usual. And I found my ego took a stronger hold than ever before.
Being the teacher and guide I am for others, it is easy to feel a little confronted when you see this play out within your own life. But, rather than allowing myself to get whipped up in a storm of criticism and judgment, I decided to take a more empowering approach.
With a compassionate heart and a gentle spirit I am using this as a beautiful wake up call to start re-building my inner foundations.
Getting Back To Basics
If you are like me, there is a tendency to want to gloss over the simple stuff like healthy eating, deep breathing and proper sleep, and leap ahead to the juicy goodness like manifesting your dreams and doing what you love every day.
But I am learning that we cannot expand in to our true potential without solid foundations beneath us to support us to go all the way. These foundations are what we can fall back on when life throws us a curve ball or we encounter an unexpected challenge.
These foundations help create a clear mindset, a light energy system, a high vibration and a balanced emotional state. They create joy, good vibes and a feeling of support. These core feelings are necessary if we want to call bigger things in to our life.
They keep us grounded, connected and present. We have an inner stability, a strong sense of self and a healthy radiance. They support us to show up more powerfully in the world.
What this really comes down to, is the quality of the relationship we have with ourselves. How well are we caring for ourselves, listening to ourselves and attending to our needs? How present, connected and awake are we? To what extent are we supporting, honouring and loving ourselves?
My Foundational Practices
What I have decided to do is bring my writing back to basics and share with you my journey of strengthening my inner foundations.
As a starting point, I have mapped out 7 key areas I will be placing my focus. Over the coming weeks and months I will be diving in to each of these in more detail for you and sharing posts and video’s with practical and simple ways to strengthen these areas. I will endeavour to be as authentic as I can and not share anything that I am not practising within myself. So, let’s begin.
To me this means: Paying loving and careful attention to what I eat, how I eat and why I eat. Filling my body with alkaline, nutrient dense, cleansing foods. Paying attention to the intention behind eating and whether I am eating from true hunger or boredom or as a distraction. Eating slowly, attentively and consciously. Being deeply connected to my body and how I feel when I eat. Hydrating my body and being conscious and attentive to how much water I am drinking. Loving and appreciating the food I eat, as I eat it. Noticing the sensation of fullness while I eat and stopping once I feel nourished.
To me this means: A commitment and devotion to stillness and the creating of inner space. Bringing an awareness to my inner world so I can notice my energy, my state of being and how I feel. Quietness. Presence. The intention to rise above my limited mind and connect with a more expansive, soulful and empowered energy. Creating the space to hear my inner wisdom, feel my heart’s whispers and receive guidance. A commitment to twice daily meditation. Devotion to the divine presence within me and prioritising my connection to her. Balancing the dynamics of being vs doing. Holding space and allowing myself to drop deeper within myself.
To me this means: Practising daily movement – a walk, yoga, stretching, dancing, running or gym classes. Allowing movement to come in whatever shape or form I feel to experience it. A deep connection with my body during movement and being present to and aware of how it feels. Tuning into the energy within my body and letting myself be moved by it. Using movement as a way to honour, respect, care for and love my body. Never exercising out of need or as a should. Releasing the push and force behind movement and allowing it to be flowing and effortless. Sweat, heat, deep breathing, strength.
4. Body Connection
To me this means: Developing a profound love and respect for the physical body I have in whatever way it appears in this moment. Acceptance of the parts of myself I am judging. Embracing the parts I am rejecting. Loving the parts I don’t want to love. Being attentive and present with my body and touching and caring for it in gentle and loving ways. Honouring the profound role it plays for me. Feeling comfortable being naked in front of the mirror and dancing in my undies. Taking immaculate care of her. Loving her. Seeing her. Connecting with her. Filling her with love and light. Speaking to her with powerful, open hearted, unconditional love.
5. Self Love
To me this means: Becoming more conscious and aware of the thoughts I am holding within myself towards myself. The quality of my self talk. Catching the limiting and fear based thoughts and turning them around to something loving, kind and beautiful. Can I compliment and praise myself? Acknowledge myself? Appreciate myself? Taking time to notice my positive aspects rather than searching for flaws. Speaking in loving and kind ways. Practicing tuning in to what I need in each moment. Giving to myself and receiving from myself. Being attentive, gentle, compassionate and kind to myself.
To me this means: Embodying more of the qualities of softness, flow, grace, passion, sensuality, ease, freedom, light, depth, radiance and the divine. Opening myself up to others and to the world. Removing the mask and releasing all defences. Receiving and allowing more love, attention and affection to flow in. Intimacy and closeness. A deep connection to my feelings and the powerful messages they hold. Goddess energy. Allowing powerful creative energy to flow through me and be expressed through writing, cooking, speaking, teaching, movement and play. Full blown, unrestricted self expression. Surrender. Painting. Letting life happen, rather than making it happen. Wild sensuality. Touch. Releasing over-doing, achieving and striving. Revelling in the joy of the process.
To me this means: Maintaining a high, positive energetic state through following my bliss and doing what brings me joy. Laughter and play. Choosing the most love-filled thought that I can reach for. Daily chakra cleansing. Prioritising what I love and making time for those practices each day. Appreciation and revelling in the moment. Deep and profound gratitude. Awe. Love. Creating happy vibes in each moment by keeping my focus on what I love. Aligning with the essence of my soul and it’s high, fine vibration. Aligning my energy with what I want to receive more of.
Would you love some support to strengthen your self-love and self-care practices? In my 1:1 coaching programs you will work closely with me and receive practical and personalised guidance.
Are there any cracks appearing in your foundations? What do you feel inspired to begin strengthening and re-building in your own life? Share with me in the comments.