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8 Tips For Processing Big Emotions & Feelings

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If you are anything like me, you may have been processing and working through some big emotions and feelings these past few weeks. There is a lot being triggered and activated for us at the moment as we move through this process of upgrading our lives and releasing everything that has been holding us back and weighing us down.

So today, I wanted to offer a few tips and nuggets of wisdom that may help you as you work through these big feels.

Let’s dive in.

Releasing emotion is like a detox

Releasing your emotion is a deeply healing and freeing experience. Emotions are an energy force that want to be able to move and flow through your body and be released. When you push down your emotions they become stuck in your body and can create heaviness, tension, anxiety, and tightness. These old trapped emotions block you feeling happiness and joy. As you allow yourself to feel your emotions and unlock this trapped energy, you create room within you for fresh new energy and lighter feelings to emerge.

Your emotions are messengers

Every time something triggers you, upsets you or causes a strong emotional reaction, you have the opportunity to learn something new about yourself. Your emotions can show you where your needs are not being met, where you need to implement a boundary, where things are out of balance in a relationship, where you have unresolved pain from the past, where you are not speaking your truth, where a change needs to happen, where you need to let go of something from your life, and so much more. When you have a big emotion, see if you can dig deeper and ask yourself “What is this really about for me?” or “Why has this upset, hurt or impacted me so deeply?”

Pay attention to recurring emotions

Do you tend to loop around the same feelings in different areas of your life? Even when you change your external situation and bring in something new, do you seem to end up feeling the same way? Perhaps in relationships with every partner, you feel disappointed or abandoned. With every new job, you still feel unfulfilled and stressed. No matter how much money you make, you constantly feel lack and insecurity. No matter how much weight you lose, you still feel not good enough. This recurring emotion is pointing to a core inner belief or pattern that needs to be healed and transformed.

Embrace your emotions with love

When big feeling or emotions arise, do you tend to resist them, shut off to them or push them to the side? Do you make yourself wrong or judge what you are feeling? Instead, see if you can open up your heart and fully embrace what you are feeling without judgment. Bring compassion, kindness, softness and understanding to yourself, and bring full acceptance to your emotions. Love and support yourself through these feelings like you would a best friend. Also, trust yourself and your body. Know that what is rising for you now, is coming up because it is time to face it and work through it.

Stay in your body and feel

When you feel a big emotion, identify where in your body you feel it the strongest and place your hand over that part of your body. Bring your attention to that place and breathe deeply into it. Stay present to the sensation and the rawness of the emotion (rather than getting caught in the story of what triggered it) and allow it to move through your body and be expressed through tears, words, rage, screaming or writing. It can also be really powerful to process and release emotion through movement such as dancing, running or sweating it out at the gym.

Practise self-support and self-care

When you are moving through big emotional periods you need a lot of self-care, as well as a safe space to express and explore your emotion. If you are feeling sensitive, triggered or emotional you may like to set yourself up in bed or somewhere cosy to explore your feelings. Play some soft music, light candles, get into some comfortable clothes and pull out your journal to work through it. It may also be helpful to dance to some music, go on a nature walk, run a bath or do anything else that calms, soothes and settles you.

Express your truth if needed

If your emotion was triggered by a person or if your emotion is around words unsaid, needs unmet or things that have hurt you, putting a voice to these feelings can be incredibly healing. It may feel important to you at this time to have conversations that allow you to be heard in your truth. When you share your emotions, stay focused on what you feel and what you are experiencing within yourself, versus getting caught in blame or making the other person wrong. Also, aim to work through and release some of the intensity around the emotion within yourself first, so you can then communicate in a calmer and clearer way.

Allow yourself to be held and supported

If your emotions feel linked to a deeper pattern, childhood trauma or painful past experience, be sure to reach out for support. Sometimes when we begin processing emotion we work through the top layers, but then we begin to see that it is linked to a core problem or issue that was never resolved for us. Personally, I have been working with some incredible therapists lately who are supporting me in releasing deep emotional trauma from my body, and this is absolutely work that you cannot do alone.

 

Would you like further support?

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With love,

Connie x

 

 

Life Upgrades & Moving Through Resistance (AR #89)

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As we move through August and into September, many of us are experiencing significant changes rippling through our lives and unfolding within ourselves. We are in a time of upgrade, and there is an inner push to begin to step up and show up in new and bigger ways.

You may find that you are experiencing powerful levels of clarity about what you now desire, along with what is no longer in alignment and needs to be released for you to expand. You may also notice that key areas of your life – be it your relationships, home, work, finances, health or lifestyle – are being rearranged, reorganised or upgraded. You may be stepping into significant new beginnings at this time, and key areas of your life are shifting now, to accommodate the new dreams that you are ready for.

You may also be moving through significant shifts within yourself, and feeling a deep inner push from within to make new decisions, take new actions, upgrade your beliefs and habits, step more into your power and finally start showing up for the desires you have been thinking about for a long time.

However, alongside all of these exciting shifts and changes, you may also be noticing a helluva lotta resistance arising. By resistance I mean, procrastination, discomfort, wanting to avoid or put things off, emotional eating, distracting yourself on your phone, finding it hard to sit still and be alone, heaviness, fatigue and generally as though part of you is wanting to pull back and run away from all that you are being called into. 

The resistance that is arising for you now, may not be new. There may be old patterns surfacing and below those patterns, deep fears, insecurities or feeling of discomfort that have been holding you back and blocking you from moving forward for years.

August is our time to look at all of this and work through it. It is our month to simultaneously be fully owning our desires, to showing up in new ways and making courageous changes while also doing the inner work to clear, feel and face our resistance and fears so we can move beyond them.

I wanted to jump on the podcast and talk further about these themes and offer some tools and guidance to support you. My desire to do this came after I hosted a recent Instagram live where I began speaking about this upgrade and resistance energy. I had so many of you share that it deeply resonated with what you are feeling and working through, so I felt it important to dive deeper and share more with you on this.

 

In this episode I cover:

+ The current energy themes and how this may be impacting you at the moment.
+ Why we are currently in a period of upgrading our lives and ourselves and what this means.
+ The shifts I am personally feeling and how this energy is impacting me.
+ Why you may be being moving through big external change, or deep inner change at the moment.
+ Why your desire for expansion may also be triggering big, heavy resistance.
+ Powerful steps and practices to help you break through your resistance and move forward.
+ Why some of the foundational areas of your life are being rearranged right now.
+ The energy of 2020 and why we are in a period of preparation from now until the end of the year.
+ Why now is the time to move forward on ideas, plans and changes that you have been thinking about for a long time.
+ What to do if you are finding yourself getting caught in procrastination, avoidance, distracting yourself and not taking the steps you need to take.
+ The importance of body-based practices to help integrate the shifts you are moving through.
+ The power of creating space and stillness within yourself and your life so can hear the guidance of your intuition.
+ Why we are in a powerful time of cleaning up our life as we step into Virgo season.

 

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Resources I Mention:

Slow Down & Tune In: Learn more about the course. Enrolments open soon.

The Dream Creator Mastermind: Learn more about the program. Next round begins January 2020.

 

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With love,
Connie x

Balancing Your Inner Feminine & Masculine Energy (AR #88)

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At the end of 2018, I reached a breaking point. I had just wrapped up another big and busy year of work, and rather than feeling happy, fulfilled and proud of what I had achieved, I instead found myself feeling exhausted, sad, empty and depleted.

I knew something was out of balance, and I needed to make some changes. So, I took a big break last December and stepped away from work for most of the month. I travelled, I spent time with family and friends, I slept, rested and took care of myself.  

I took some time to get honest with myself and reflect over the past 6+ years of running my coaching practise and a full-time business, and in the process, I had some pretty confronting realisations.

I realised that I was addicted to doing and achieving. My sense of self-worth and value felt heavily tied up on my success, how much money I was making and the external validation I received in my work. I was stuck in a pattern of pushing, forcing and controlling and I was ignoring my bodies cries for rest, play, adventure, fun and love. 

I realised I was often putting money, success and achievement ahead of my own wellbeing. I was operating in my masculine energy most of the time, and I wasn’t nurturing and giving enough energy to other areas of my life, especially my relationships.

I knew I needed to bring things back into balance, so at the start of this year, I took a giant step back. I changed my priorities.

Over the past few months, I have been nurturing myself back to strength, happiness and wellness. I have been investing energy in other areas of my life including travel, adventure, love, connection, friendships, relationships, creativity and play. I have been following what makes me happy, prioritising my pleasure and deeply honouring my body.

I have also been awakening and more deeply embodying my feminine energy. This has meant working less, pushing less, controlling less and doing less. It has meant surrendering, flowing, feeling and trusting. It has seen me focusing deeply on my relationship with myself and loving and valuing the woman that I am outside of my achievements. 

While I have been quiet on the work front these past few months, my personal life has been thriving. I can honestly say my heart and body feel full for the first time in years.

This journey has been so transformative for me, that I wanted to come onto the podcast and speak about it further. Today I am sharing about the power and importance of balancing our inner feminine and masculine energies and I am sharing some beautiful starting points that I hope will deeply support you.

 

In this episode I cover:

+ How I have started unravelling from my old patterns of masculine living, and why I have been coming deeper into my feminine.
+ Understanding your inner feminine and masculine and how each of these energies play out for you.
+ Why as women it is important for us to be nurturing, awakening and embodying our feminine.
+ How our masculine energy can serve and support us as women, and why we need to honour and appreciate it.
+ How to balance these two energies within yourself and get them working together.
+ 4 tips that will break through the fear and myth that you cannot be productive if you are in your feminine.
+ 10 powerful practices I have been using to more deeply embody my feminine.
+ Why as women we need to practise releasing control and surrender to the masculine.
+ Why exploring your own sensuality and sexuality is a key part of awakening your feminine.
+ The power of movement, dance, following your pleasure, listening to your joy and indulging in self-care.
+ Why we need to stop basing our worth on our achievements and start finding our value within.
+ How to deeply honour yourself, your feelings, your wants and your needs.
+ My new feminine morning and evening routines.
+ 2 new exciting ways you can work with me this month.
+ Plus an overview of the energy of May, and I share a big piece of channelled guidance that will help you create powerful change through the month of May.

 

Listen to Episode #88

 

Resources I Mention

Awaken Your Feminine Energy & Intuition Free Training: Running live on Thursday 16th May at 9am (AEST).
Register for the training here.


My new course, Divine Femme: Registration opens on Thursday 16th May
Find out more about Divine Femme here.

 

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With love,
Connie x

2019: Energy Themes & Guidance For Creating A Magical Year (AR #87)

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It has been several months since I brought you an Awaken Radio episode, and I must admit I am pretty excited to be back.  I hadn’t at all planned to take such an extended break, but I found myself at the end of 2018 feeling incredibly depleted after a massive year.

As I came into December, I tuned into myself and what I really needed and I realised I need to give myself a break from work. I ended up spending most of December resting, traveling, connecting with friends and family, hanging out in nature, playing, recharging and simply focusing on what felt good.

The transition between 2018 and 2019 was a big one energetically, and I can see why I needed to take so much time for myself in December. I felt some intense energy shifts and upgrades happening as we came into the New Year, and it was clear to me very early on that this year was going to be completely different to the past few.

So it has taken me a little while to find my feet in this new year, and get back into the swing of work. I am committed to maintaining greater balance in my life this year and ensuring I am prioritizing play, adventure, connection and fun alongside my work.

This has meant that things have moved a little slow so far this year, but that has not bothered me at all. This year I want to move forward with the energy of ease, and from a place of wholeness. I am done with being stressed, scattered and overworked.

So while it has taken me a while to get my first podcast episode out for this year, I am trusting that the timing of it is perfect for those of you who need to hear what I have to share here.

This episode is a big one. In today’s conversation, I share a little about what I have been moving through over the past few months, and the energy shifts that we as a collective have been going through. I talk about the key energy themes for this year, the core principles we will need to be focusing on and working through, and I offer guidance about how to create a magical 2019.

For those of you who have enjoyed my previous episodes where I have shared small snippets of channeled wisdom from one of my key spirit guides, you will be happy to know that there is not one, but two big downloads in this episode for you.

I am excited to be back on the podcast, and I hope you enjoy this first episode for 2019. I have so much to share with you this year, and I can’t wait to bring it all to you in due time.

 

In this episode I cover:

+ The shift in energy that we experienced as we moved out of 2018 and into 2019, and why it was a challenging adjustment for many of us.
+ Why 2019 will be a powerful year of manifestation.
+ Why January was a month of transition, and left many of us feeling tired, lacking clarity and needing a lot of self-care.
+ Why February is a month of grounding, and the importance of being in your body this month
+ The key energy themes and principles we will be working with this year.
+ Why surrender and being in our feminine, will be the key to manifestation.
+ My personal themes for 2019 and my key guiding words.
+ What it means to be magnetic, and how to call in your desires with ease.
+ Why we need to watch out for patterns of sabotage, avoidance, and distraction this year.
+ The power and importance of creating change through energy work, not just action.
+ How to create tangible change and call in what you truly desire (especially if you have been feeling stuck, or like you are not making progress).
+ Details of a new online group coaching circle I have created and how you can be a part of it.

 

Listen to Episode #87

Resources I Mention

My recent Instagram post

Lee Harris

Sara Brooke

My new Group Coaching Circle

 

Apply for my new Online Group Coaching Program:

In this 3-month group coaching program, you will join a soulful, like-minded community of women and take the journey of stepping into greater self-love, awakening more of your feminine essence and activating your divine power.

You will receive video classes, live group coaching sessions, workbooks and a supportive and like-minded community.

Over 3 powerful months, we will explore topics such as: self-love, receiving, balancing feminine and masculine energies, embodiment, self-connection, energy work, and how to manifest by being magnetic.

Limited to 10 spaces.

Find out more and apply now.

 

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With love,
Connie x