I rarely read books from start to finish. I tend to open them up at a section, read a few pages, get what I need and then move on. When my eagerly anticipated delivery of May Cause Miracles by Gabrielle Bernstein arrived I initially jumped in to doing the same thing. I flipped through it, read some parts here and there and then temporarily put it aside.
In several of the coaching sessions I have had with my clients recently, this book seems to keep coming up in conversation. Many of my clients are completing the daily work in this book alongside the work we are doing in our sessions, with really positive results.
Seeing my clients are making such a powerful commitment to their own inner work, I thought – well why shouldn’t I? So, I will be committing to working through this book from start to finish. It is a 40 day workbook with exercises and meditations with the intention of releasing fear and creating subtle yet miraculous shifts.
So, today is day 1: Witnessing Fear. As I previously mentioned I have recently changed my morning routine, and I will now be bringing this work in to my precious morning time. For the next 40 days it will be me and Gabby, hanging out at 6am, by candlelight. Meditating. Doing the work. Creating miracles.
Fear plays out in our lives in so many different ways. And I am learning that any time you are on the journey of really stepping up, playing big and moving beyond what you ‘know’ fear is going to come up. It is a beautiful indicator that you are growing – if you are aware of it. And this is why witnessing fear is so powerful. If it is playing out unconsciously and totally sabotaging you then it will stop you dead in your tracks when you attempt to move forward.
But once you are aware of them, these fears become perfect opportunities to learn and grow.
We all have the same underlying fears – fear of not being good enough, fear of not being loved, fear of not being accepted etc. Just because you have these fears does not mean there is anything wrong with you. Do not use these fears as a reason to beat up on yourself.
But for each of us, these fears will play out differently depending on our lives circumstances. They may cause us to be over-critical of ourselves or others. We may mentally tear people down or make them wrong. We will compete and work hard to become better than someone else. We will place judgements on people, events or ourselves. We will look to the external world for our comfort, security and sense of self. We will hold resentments against people who we feel have hurt us. We will become arrogant and aloof to appear superior to others. We will self-protect, attack, manipulate and control.
In Gabby’s book, the starting point is simply to witness these fears. Awareness is such a large part of the journey and without it you cannot create any change.
I have done a lot of work in the past around clearing my fears. But I am finding that as I step more and more in to my truth, the fearful ego voice has been even sneakier at pulling me back. Fear is playing out in subtle ways and I know I need to become very aware of what is going on so that I can re-set my mindset and reconnect with love.
If you are wanting to step on to the path of transforming your fear, dig deep and do the work darlings. Buy the book.
Powerful Questions To Begin Witnessing Fear
1. What experiences trigger my fear?
2. What thoughts trigger my fear?
3. What are the feelings that come over me when I am in fear?
4. How does fear affect my behaviour?
Take some time today to sit down and work through these questions and then sit few a minutes afterwards to really process and feel what it is that has come up for you.
Are you reading May Cause Miracles at the moment? How did you find the chapter on witnessing fear? I would love for you to share your thoughts and experiences below.