How to Begin Changing Your Life

I am continuously being contacted by people who want to know how to change their life. People often ask me “how do I begin to change?” or “where do I start?” or “what is one of the first things I can do?”

My response to these beautiful seekers, is generally quite long winded and detailed. How do I possibly sum up the process for life transformation in a few paragraphs! There is no single solution to this question. There is no quick fix. At the end of the day, there is really only one answer.

 If you are genuinely wanting to change your life, then you have to do the work.

I recently caught up with a darling friend, Vienda Maria, and we spent quite bit of time sitting on a grassy hill at Bondi Beach gazing over the water, and chatting about how it is exactly that we have changed our lives. Both of us admitted that we had gone through quite a process of transformation over the past few years. And while we had each taken our own journey and unique path to get there, we had one common factor. We did the work.


It All Comes Down To Inner Work

The work is not about making things happen, taking excessive action and bulldozing over all of your fears. The work is an inward journey.

Inner work is about clearing out all of the crap that stands between where you are and where you want to be. The inner crap. The limiting beliefs. The unsupportive stories. The disempowering self talk. The self-destructive habits. The fear. The doubt.

It is not about labelling these aspects of your self as bad and doing your best to get rid of any of them. Quite the opposite. It is about embracing them, loving them, and releasing them. Forgive yourself for holding on to them for so long, and then let them go.

The work is unique to each individual. It is intimate and personal. It is precious and beautiful. It is purposeful and meaningful. There are lessons to be learned. Truth to be remembered. This journey is about discovering who you really are and letting go of anything else that is not that.

I can not give you the answer to your problems, and I can not tell you the solutions. I can not tell you what your outcome will look like or give you a map of how to get there. Only you can find that. Only you will know that. The answers are inside of you. No where else.


Get To Know Yourself

So, my answer to people who want to know where to start is know thyself. Turn inwards. Reflect. Find out who you are. Do the work to let go of all of the stories you have been telling yourself over the years, and discover your true potential.

I have used many different practices over the past few years, which have facilitated my peeling back of the layers of false illusions so that I could discover my truth, connect with my heart, and live out my passions.

I have meditated, received life coaching, attended buddhism retreats, seen energetic healers, read book, after book after book. I have practiced affirmations, spent thousands of dollars attending personal development programs, seen psychics, practiced EFT and Reiki. I have done physical cleanses, practiced yoga, attended workshops, applied NLP, prayed, begged and surrendered.

Through this whole time, there has been one practice that has been a consistent and ongoing practice through my journey.

I have journaled.


If In Doubt, Get Journalling

I began journalling when I was about 12. I used to write in a little floral diary with a small gold lock. I used this diary to attempt to process the teenage angst I experiencing. As I matured, so did my writing. From around the age of 18 my journal became my crutch, my lifesaver, my support. It was the one thing I would turn to whenever I was experiencing challenges.

As I have travelled along my journey of releasing all my limitations and discovering my truth, journalling has enabled me to document my transformation.

Journalling allowed me to create clarity, to self-reflect, to process my emotions, to make sense of my thoughts, and to reconnect with that loving and supportive voice inside of me.

So, if you are ready to start doing the work, go and buy yourself a little gorgeous journal and get to work.

If you are not sure where to start, in the following post I will share 5 different journalling practices that you can try!


Connie x


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