The process of transformation is rarely a perfect, linear path that we walk though with grace and ease. Rather we are often thrown in to a messy process of change, re-organisation and temporary chaos. If we don’t take a broader perspective to see the beautiful and perfect, divine process that is unfolding, we can easily feel like our life is falling apart.
If we react with fear to this process we will find ourselves clinging, controlling and becoming wracked with anxiety. When things fall away we will perceive them as losses and will feel grief, fear and pain as they leave our life. We may resist the growth and opportunities we are being called towards. We will fight against the current that is calling us in new directions.
Our mind will be quick to tell us that things are going wrong and even perhaps that we are doing things wrong. We may feel like a failure if we lose money, abandoned if a relationship ends, and lose our sense of self if our career goes through a shift.
But if we can understand that we are in a process of transformation, and embrace the learnings that are present for us, we can glide through it with so much more peace and ease.
6 Signs You’re In a Process Of Transformation
I am personally right in the middle of a massive period of transformation at the moment, and I am sharing the following 6 signs with you directly from my own personal experience. I am watching my external world shift and change dramatically as old forms and structures are rapidly falling away and an incredible space is being created as a platform for the new to rush in.
For me, this process is about surrendering to my soul and knowing that everything which has been built in my life from a space of need, fear or ego is crumbling so that soul can guide my life.
So, if you can relate to any of these, please know you are not alone. Your life is up-levelling and incredible new things are on their way to you, so take a deep breath, let go and flow with the process.
1. Things Are Falling Apart & Falling Away
Clearing away of the old is necessary to create space and a clean slate to lay new foundations and build more authentic structures. Many of us struggle with letting go, as we fear the space that will be created and we have no idea who we are without these external forms that define us.
This can be one of the most scary and unsettling times.When things in our life begin to crumble around us, it can trigger feelings of anxiety, grief and the desire to cling.
On a deep level there is a part of you that is ready to call in the new, which is why this letting go process has began. You are making room. You are re-building. One some level you have shifted within you, and so the world around you is now changing to reflect that.
How To Manage This: Surrender completely and let it happen. Trust whole-heartedly and have complete faith that there is a divine process unfolding. You may not understand it yet, but on some level what is leaving is no longer aligned with your highest good. New things are on their way, you just have to trust the process and be patient.
2. You Feel Confused, Anxious & Full of Mind Chatter
The process of transformation cannot be understood by the mind. It is a process guided by something much deeper and it falls outside the realms of logic and reason. The more you try to understand what is happening, the more confused you will become.
Your mind will try to keep you on the path of what makes sense so that it can stay in control and feel like it knows what is going to happen. Being pushed in the dark depths of uncertainty can throw you off in to strong feeling of fear, anxiety and panic.
It is likely you will find yourself battling between the conflicting desires of your head and heart. You will experience confusion when your heart and soul are wanting to speak up but your mind is questioning and over-analysing. Your mind will also be buzzing and racing incessantly in attempt to keep you disconnected from your heart and soul.
How To Manage This: Stop trying to figure it out. You don’t need to know why anything is happening and you definitely don’t have to try to understand it or solve it. Instead get in to your body which is where you will find connection with your feelings, your heart and your inner guidance.
3. You’re Not Getting The Results You Used To Get
The actions that used to create certain results, are no longer reaping the same rewards. No matter how hard you try, things just don’t seem to work. You encounter barriers, brick-walls and obstacles at every turn. You are now being called to re-assess what you do, and why.
Many of us act from a space of fear and need and this old way of being can no longer survive as you start to transform. When this happens, it is a powerful reminder to take our attention of what we are doing and return our focus to who we are being in our lives.
If you have been defining yourself through your external results, if you have been searching for external forms of love, if you have been basing your self worth on what you do, then you are going to get a shake up. When things in your life stop working, it is a big fat sign that the way you have been doing things is not truly authentic and aligned.
How To Manage This: Step away. Stop doing. Let go of the desire to continue to push, force and figure it out. If it isn’t flowing effortlessly then let it go. Bring your attention back to who you are being, how you feel and check in with the ways that fear is perhaps driving your actions.
4. You Feel Drawn To Retreat & Go Internal
As the world around you feels unsteady and uncertain, you may be feeling the call to retreat a little and turn inwards. Bringing our attention within ourselves and stepping away from the external world is a natural part of the transformation process.
This is not about shutting off from the outside world, but rather re-defining your relationship with everything outside of you.
The process of transformation provides incredible opportunity for inner learnings, expansion and growth. We can discover so much about ourselves.
Bringing your attention inwards is about learning to fill yourself up so you can then overflow on the outside. It is about learning how to connect with yourself and find what you are seeking within you.
How To Manage This: Show up for the inner work and take an inner inventory. How can you support your inner world and create feeling of peace, balance and serenity? Listen to yourself. Ask yourself what you need and learn to give to yourself. Open your heart to yourself and begin to love and appreciate who you are.
5. Relationships Are Ending & People Are Leaving Your Life
So many of our relationships are created on the foundations of need, control and co-dependency and we don’t even realise it. We are in this dynamic with others where we expect them to make us feel how we want to feel and to be the source of our love.
Any relationship that is infused with fear energy, will begin to become unsteady. The relationship will either fall away completely, or it will leave your life temporarily while you each go through a process of healing within yourself so that a new dynamic can be created between you.
The new relationships you want to create are ones where two people are whole, complete and full within themselves and come together to play with each other, to create joy and to overflow so that they create a powerful life force between them.
How To Manage This: Let them go. Notice your reactions and move through them. Let yourself feel the grief, pain and sadness. The process of fully feeling and releasing these emotions is incredibly healing.
6. Old Ways Of Being Are No Longer Working
When we are being called to up level our life and embody new ways of being, we are going to experience a period where our old ways of being stop working. Old patterns driven by fear, need, ego, attachment, control and force will cease to work and you will be called to embody more soulful, heart-driven and love-filled ways of being.
As we start to become conscious to our unconscious parts it can be incredibly confronting. You may now learning how to re-define who you are and how you find your sense of self and get love.
Use this as a chance to see where you have created false identities and ways of being that do not deeply serve you. Your purpose is being re-assessed and evaluated. You must become conscious and aware of the why behind everything that you do now.
How To Manage This: Begin to choose new ways of being. If you were to show up in a space of love and allow the energies of joy, inspiration, kindness, acceptance, peace, flow, passion, trust and soul guide your life, what would be different? Be aware of who you are being moment by moment and begin to make new choices.
A New Energy Will Soon Rise Up
As you start to create space within yourself and your world, new ideas will begin to bubble up into your conscious mind. As you create space by releasing what is no longer serving you and is not truly aligned, you will allow new guidance, energy and support to rush in.
This new energy will begin by stirring within you, and it will soon begin to break through. As it rises, you must allow it to guide and lead you forward. This will feel new and unfamiliar so be gentle with yourself during this time.
You may or may not know or understand these new ideas. They may challenge you and the way you are used to doing things. They may call you in to uncharted territory, to leave a relationship or to pursue a new career. They might call you to express parts of yourself that you have been suppressing.
If you take your attention off the external, you will soon return to a state of inner balance and reconnect with the peace within you. Your life might look like a total mess, but if you are riding the wave of transformation and embracing the process you will soon find yourself dropping into a space of peace.
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I would love to hear your thoughts on this post. Are you in the midst of a process of transformation? While of these signs are you experiencing at the moment? Share with me in the comments below.