Do you find yourself placing expectations on people in your life to act in certain ways in order to meet your needs? Many of us do this in our relationships with our partners, friends or family.
And when we feel that those people do not meet our expectations, we become upset or angry and blame them for not doing what we wanted.
Let Others Off The Hook
In today’s video I share an example from my own life of where I had been placing pressure and expectations on my boyfriend to act in a certain way so that I could feel the way I wanted to feel in the relationship.
When he didn’t act in the way I was expecting. I initially went in to ‘attack mode’ by making him wrong. But when I took a step back, I was able to ask my self some really powerful questions to explore what was going on at a deeper level.
As I did this, I created amazing inner shifts by seeing that the issue was not actually about him, but rather it was about me not meeting my own needs and not connecting with the feelings within myself that I was seeking.
Video: How To Drop Your Expectations Of Others
If you can relate to what I am sharing I recommend you watch the video and ask yourself the following powerful questions:
1.What are my expectations? What expectations am I placing on this person? What do I think I need from them?
2. How do I want to feel? How do I think I would feel if they met those needs?
3. Can I meet those needs within myself? Can I feel the way I want to feel without needing anything from them?
I would love for you to share your thoughts and experiences in the comments section below. Have you found yourself placing expectations on others? What did you discover by asking yourself these questions?