Today’s episode of Awaken Radio was inspired by a realisation I had recently around a relationship in my life. I had found myself feeling frustrated, disappointed and sad with how someone in my life was showing up, or shall I say, not showing up. A whole host of emotions were being stirred up, and at the time I was finding it hard to pin-point what it was all about.
I was sitting on my bed working through my feelings around this, when I was guided to a book on my bookcase. As I opened up the book, there was one sentence that immediately jumped out at me.
It read; “Allow people to be whoever they want to be.” I immediately stopped in my tracks. Something in these words resonated deeply and seemed to be the hidden clue to what I was feeling.
I sat and pondered over what I had just read, and I was hit with a huge realisation.
Suddenly I could see why I was feeling the way I was.
I had not been allowing this person to be who they wanted to be. Instead I was expecting them to be what I wanted them to be.
I was holding within my heart an idea of how I thought they should show up in my life, and seeing they had not met my expectations, and I felt sad and despondent.
This kick-started a series of realisations around the mental idea I had created in my mind about this person, which was not based on reality, nor on who this person was, or wanted to be. I had created rules in my mind about how this person should show up in order to make me happy, and I was projecting my idea of this person onto them as an expectation.
And so I decided to come on the podcast and discuss this further with you. I wanted to share how we can work through these expectations we have and how to know in ourselves if we need to let them go and make peace with how a person is showing up in our life, or if we need to find the courage to communicate our hidden desire and ask for what we want and need.
I hope you find this episode enlightening and supportive, and I look forward to hearing your feedback.
In this episode I discuss;
- Why expectations are a sneaky form of control.
- The importance of allowing another person to be whoever they want to be.
- Why expectations are actually unspoken needs.
- The power of clearly expressing your desires and wants.
- My step by step process for working through your expectations and knowing whether you need to release them or communicate them.
- The power of uncovering the core feelings behind your expectations.
- How appreciation and acceptance of yourself and others can heal your relationships.
Listen to Episode #64;
What was your biggest insight or realisation from today’s episode? Share with me in the comments.