We have all experienced those turning points in our lives. The moments when we make a decision which changes everything. Where we know that right then and there, we are re-defining ourselves and shifting the course of our life.
These opportunities often fill us with pangs of inner conflict. One voice beckons us back in to the security of our comfort zone, yet another pulls us forward so powerfully that we simply can’t say no.
We can either keep on cruising on the same old track, or we can veer off path and forge our own trail. We can literally re-define our future and write a brand new script for our life.
These are the moments where one decision changes everything. These are our daring moments. Where we teeter on the edge of fear. Where life dares us to take the leap.
Say yes or say no.
Act on your heart or listen to fear.
Stay or walk away.
Step up or keep hiding.
An opportunity presents itself. We feel the pull. But we falter. We hesitate. We step back. We take time to think. We over-analyse. We worry.
When really all we need to do is just say yes.
It is in these moments that life calls at you;”So sweetheart, what’s it going to be?”Are you gonna keep playing that same game you always play, or are you going to do something differently? Are going to step up? Are you going to say yes? Well, here’s your chance. Show me what you got.”
The Daring Moments That Changed My Life
I have experienced many of these dramatic shifts over the past few years. My daring moments have been turning points, where I have made a decision that have changed the course of my entire life.
13th November 2009
I will never forget the day I hit publish on my first ever blog post at a life of perfect days. I was literally terrified. The idea of having my innermost thoughts and feelings, live on the internet for all to see, seemed crazy. Back then it was still new to have a blog and people asked me why on earth I would want to share myself so publicly.
But I had a message. It was a message that had been sitting inside of me for way too long. It was time to share it. It was time to be seen. The desire to give my words a platform to be heard, became stronger and more powerful than the fear I felt. And so I did it. My journey of blogging began on that day, and has now continued for the past 4 and a half years.
23rd October 2012
This was the day I signed for up my life coach training. It was the day I finally said yes to the desire that had been bubbling within me for 9 years. It was the day I finally found the courage to follow my heart.
I was on the phone to the course consultant, palms sweaty, with adrenalin pumping through my body. I had been deliberating on doing this course for 12 months and I simply couldn’t delay it any longer. The conversation was a blur. I gave her my credit card details and locked myself in. I got off the phone, shaking. I knew I had made a decision that would change my life forever.
1st November 2013
I had been waiting for this day for months. The final day at my full time job. I had been in a hectic transition period for most of the year, trying to juggle full time work, a part time coaching business while still completing my life coach training. And now my moment had arrived. I could finally spend every single day doing the work that I was born to do.
As I packed up my belongings people asked me what I was planning on doing. All I could say was “I don’t know”. I had a few part time clients, $1000 in my savings account and no plan. But I knew I was doing the right thing. I showed up so fully for that journey, and within 6 weeks had a full time load of coaching clients and had launched conniechapman.com. I have never felt so scared in my whole life, yet at the same time I have never felt so supported and guided either.
Nothing Happens Until You Decide
All of these moments have been transformative for me. One decision has quite simply changed the course of my life.
When you stand on the edge of these turning points, you do not need to know what is going to happen. You don’t need to know how it is going to unfold. All you need to do is say yes.
Nothing happens until you decide. The money you need will not show. The opportunities will not present themselves. Not a single shift will occur. You have to decide first.
“Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back– Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth that ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way. Whatever you can do, or dream you can do, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it. Begin it now.” Goethe.
Change Happens The Minute You Say Yes To Your Heart
There is a common theme that has run through each of these turning points.
In each of these moments I made the decision to follow my heart. I chose to act on what I loved, rather than being ruled by the voice of fear. I chose to believe in a new possibility, rather than my own programming
In each of these situations I have been so wracked with fear that I could barely breathe. But below the fear was another energy. It was a calm, encouraging, powerful energy. It was the energy of my heart telling me that the step I was about to take was the most perfect, aligned and right thing I could possibly do.
In each of these moments, I felt that the love I had for what I wanted, and the desire I had to express my truth, was more powerful than my fear. It literally pulled me beyond it.
The voice of love was calling at me. Calling me to expand, to grow and to become more. It tugged at me. And when I listened to it, and trusted it whole-heartedly, it propelled me beyond my fear.
Choose Love Or Succumb To Fear. What’s It Going To Be?
In every moment you are choosing which energy will rule your life. Fear will cause you to withdraw, shrink, hesitate, hide and say no. Love will call you to step out, expand, decide, be seen and say yes.
You can choose. Be dominated by fear, or be lifted by love. It’s up to you.
The only way I was able to make the decisions I did, was by going deeper in to myself, to listen, to feel, to tune in to the guidance that lay below my frantic mind. I made that deep, inner, loving voice, more real than the fear-driven voice of my mind.
In each of those moments I could have chosen to believe in fear. To buy in to the limitation. To let it stop me. But I made a different choice. I chose love. I chose to do what I loved. I chose to listen to the loving choice. I chose to say yes to my heart.
Was it easy? No. Was I petrified? Yes. But did I feel the most alive that I have ever felt in my entire life? Abso-freaking-lutely. It was magic.
And this will be your daring moment. The moment where you decide to say yes to your heart, to follow what you love and do something differently. The moment where you choose to stop hesitating, avoiding and procrastinating and you show up fully for what you want. The moment you act in the face of fear. The moment you say yes, to you.
What has been the most powerful and life-altering daring moment you have experienced? Share with me in the comments below.