Why It Took Me 9 Years To Follow My Dream

I am not one of those overnight success stories. Far from it. My journey has spanned more than a decade and it has taken me years of inner work to drop in to a space that has enabled me to be the teacher that I am.

It can be so easy to look at where people are in their life now, and compare ourselves. Especially in a day and age where so much of our lives and business are more visible than ever.

But when we only focus on what we see on the surface, we discount the extensive journey that person has gone on to become who they are today. 

Your journey is precious and pivotal, so in today’s video I encourage you to take your foot off the accelerator for a moment and just chill out.

The process that you are going through to arrive at your dream, is a necessary step in your own personal evolution. It is enabling you to become the person you need to be to embody that dream.

I feel to remind you that a pushing and forcing energy comes from a space of fear, doubt and lack. While a relaxed, trusting energy comes from the inner knowing that our desire is already done.


Why It Took Me 9 Years To Follow My Dream

I want to share my story with you of why it took me 9 years to follow my dream because I want to encourage you to drop that crazy rushing energy that comes from wanting our dreams to manifest now.


Don’t Give Up. Ever!

For years I experienced the same feelings of resistance. My mind tried to convince me I would be stuck in the same place forever.

But it wasn’t true. I am a living and breathing example of that.

Please do not give up. Do not be disheartened.

If you find yourself focusing too much on the attainment of your external goals and desires, I want to encourage you to just drop them temporarily.

Zoom back and bring your attention inwards. Ask yourself what soul learning’s or pivotal experiences you are gaining right now. Make it about the inner journey rather than the outer results.

I would not be where I am today without a fierce commitment to my inner work and my own personal and spiritual growth.

They are the backbone of my success. We can simply not skip that step.


There are lots of messages weaved through this video. What was your one big take away or realisation? Share with me in the comments below.

With love,

Connie x

30 thoughts on “Why It Took Me 9 Years To Follow My Dream”

  1. This is so beautiful Connie!! I love the idea of it being a journey to get there. I have been really struggling with working in my current job and just wish I could quit now. But I need to look at it as a process that needs to happen and while I’m here I need to remember that I am in control how I feel about it.
    Thank you for the inspiration Connie!! I am always excited to see a new post or video from you!! Xoxo

    1. Yes, there is a reason you are still in your job at the moment Chelsea and when we drop the resistance to where we are, we can begin to open up to the learning that is there for us. Keep your heart focused on what you want. Don’t give up on what you love. But be easy about where you are and allow the process to unfold without force. Connie x

  2. Beautiful Connie, I think timing is everything and we are all exactly where we need to be. There are always lessons to learn and the journey to where we want to go has great teachings that will only help us to share our true purpose and passion.
    At your last event I shared with you how I fell back into a media job and was thinking what the eff have I done. Once I stopped fighting that feeling God revealed to me why I need to be there right now. I have made a lot of connections that can only help me in what I will end up doing. Also there is a lot of people here that need light and every chance I get I am preaching my message to them (and they seem to like listening). It’s been great practice for me in communicating and teaching love! It’s been a really great experience and I know that it’s part of the plan for me.

    1. I love that you have opened up to find the blessing in where you are. It is such an important practice as resisting would just make you miserable. You can be on purpose and be a teacher no matter where you are. Keep shining your light beautiful x

  3. I love this post Connie! I am 28 now and it has taken me 8 years to get to where I am now. It is so important to look at the past experiences as a journey and I never saw it like that at the time, it was a struggle. But now I am loving life and my job.x

    1. I agree Kylie. I used to think that I had ‘wasted time’ but every part of the journey has been pivotal in getting me to where I am now x

  4. It was very nice to listen your story. I’m worried about me because I’m 35 and I haven’t discovered my dream yet. There were some ideas in the past, but circumstances in life showed me they were not the way. I’m not sure what makes sense in life after all the failure experiencies. It is being difficult for me to find what I love in so passionate way that it worths all the process. Your video gives me hope, but I feel in a hurry because it has passed a long time.

    1. Meli there will be lots of learnings unfolding for you, even if you feel you have not discovered your dream. it does not have to come as a big vision, it could simply be about doing more of the small things that you love. The more we listen to your hearts whisper and act on it, the louder it speaks. Just ask yourself each moment “what would I love to do right now?’ and then let what you love lead you x

  5. Thank you gorgeous. I quite like that little bit tt wisdom too. It reminds me to slow down and be super present with where I am x

  6. Connie! What a beautiful and honest post! THANKYOU for sharing. Felt like you were speaking directly to me, very timely. So much valuable insight from you.
    ‘Don’t rush the process, the process is pivotal to get you to where you want to be’ I have written it down!!!
    Thankyou again!!

    1. Oh I am so thrilled that my own personal journey has provided so many nuggets of wisdom for you beautiful x

  7. Thank you for sharing your story! I have been pushing to get a successful business, but I will now take a step back and stop pushing. It´s time to focus on the inner work !

    1. Absolutely Sara, pushing comes from fear. When that happens we need to step back and clear that out so we can move forward with love x

  8. Thankyou so much for sharing Connie. You really hit the nail on the head! I have been really struggling with this lately but I was so encouraged by your message. I know I just need to keep drawing inwards and focus on myself rather than comparing with others. Thankyou.

    1. Hi Rachel, it can be so disheartening when we have a beautiful dream but our mind keeps wandering off to what others are doing. It is our fearful mind trying to keep us small by telling us their is ‘no point’ and we should just ‘give up’ This is when we need to put our blinkers on, reconnect with our heart and remember the message our soul is here to share in this lifetime x

  9. Oh Connie, thanks for sharing this story. It’s taken me over a year to take the leap and start really going after my dreams and I completely relate to what you’re saying here. It can be such a challenge just to discover and wake up to your dreams but then to actually embark on the journey and not get caught up in comparison and self doubt, we get there for a reason. When we are ready. Love it.

    Also, your gorgeous office chair makes it look like you have angel wings. Seems fitting somehow 😉

    1. Yes, the biggest challenge comes once you uncover your dream, as then you have to muster the courage to follow it! Congratulations on how far you have come in your journey beautiful. Can’t wait to see where 2014 takes you x

  10. SUCH good timing Connie! I’ve been pushing massively as I come up to the end of my degree to get THAT job, make THAT income, move to THAT city. Your message has really brought it home to me that I’m pushing out of fear that it won’t happen and that I don’t deserve it. Stepping back now, CONTINUING to show up and be fearless and know that it is already mine. Much love xx

    1. Yay Ebony I love that this video created new awareness for you of where fear was playing out. It is SO already yours xx

  11. What a beautiful video, Connie- thank you. I actually watched it a few times, as I knew I needed to hear it today! I’m incredibly guilty of pushing things, but I always that I’m exactly where I need to be at the end of the day.

    Thank you my lovely- xx

    1. My pleasure gorgeous. We can slip back in to this pattern at any time, so it is a constant practice of being present and self aware. Beautiful hun xx

  12. Thank you for this post Connie. I have been struggling of late with decisions I have made in my past, choosing life over study and a career. I know I am at a turning point right now.I am turning 30 this year, no full time job or income and not entirely happy with my life BUT full of dreams and goals. After my cry and self pity I jumped online and found this video. Thank you for allowing me to see that my decisions have got me where I am today and I can do it. Just because I am not there right now does not mean I will never be. I know its not going to change over night but it will over time I just need to keep going and not give up.

    Thank you x

  13. Connie, this is so amazingly perfect. There’s so much ‘push’ at the moment to have it all now (make 10K now, live your dreams now, you can have it all now etc). And along the way of following our dream, we unknowingly get tangled in a web of ego trying to rush the process. Perfect words. Love you loads!!! xo

    1. Oh yes the ‘push’. It sneaks in a lot doesn’t it? We just have to keep tuning in to our own unique path and inner guidance and follow our dreams at the pace that is truly right for us. Beaming you love beautiful x

  14. Thank you, Connie.
    I know you posted this video a while ago but I found it only today and there was no better timing. This is exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you!

  15. Hey Connie,

    I am 15 years old and really struggling to love myself. I am a dancer and practically live in a leotard. I compare myself to other people daily and go on diets which I trick myself into thinking is healthy but really my soul purpose is too lose weight. I started this in Year 7, when I was 11 years old. It makes me really upset that I am so controlled by these feelings that make me hate the way I look. I want to learn to love myself and listen to my body and trust my intuition rather then following the diet of another person or my past self. How can I begin my journey of self love and nourishment? I send you so much love and light and thank you for anything you say that might be able to help end my destructive path of unloving behaviours towards myself.

  16. LOVE your work Connie, love your energy! Thank you for being you and the true leader you are – a guiding light for others. I hope to meet you in person one day soon… Big love & blessings to you! xx

  17. Another awesome video, Connie. This resonates with me as I’m experiencing the pushing, rushing energy, feeling like I’m starting late and needing to hurry up. I know that resistance has its own message that I need to listen to but the rushing energy is so overwhelming sometimes. Thank you for the reminder that it will come.

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