I have lost count of how many times over the past few months that I have written to you about creating space, stepping back and letting go. It has definitely been a recurring theme for me.
I have been wondering for a while what all of this letting go has been about, and it is only now that I am beginning to get clearer.
As I have navigated this journey through it’s many twists and turns over the past year, I have gained some incredible insights into what the process of letting go is all about, while also learning how to move through it with an open and surrendered heart.
Today I am sharing 13 lessons on letting go that I hope will support you to thrive (rather than struggle) through this process and release the old with ease and grace so you can make space in your life for more of what you truly love.
13 Lessons on Letting Go (And Making More Room For What You Love)
1) It’s all about space
Letting go is simply a process of creating space. As you grow and expand it is natural to then shed the old in order to make room for the new. This intricate, and often divinely inspired process, is something to be deeply respected and honoured. It is part of life’s cycles of death and birth and beginnings and endings. It cannot be resisted, and must instead be embraced as a necessary component of your personal transformation.
2) As within, so without
The clearing out, shedding and releasing process can unfold both internally and externally. Often it is sparked by some form of internal process as you start to re-define old belief systems, perceptions of yourself, judgments, past pains, emotions and habits. These inner shifts will serve as catalysts for the external changes that consequently unfold.
If you have been on any form of ‘inner work’ journey, do not be surprised if suddenly things in your world start to change too. This change is not happening ‘to you’ – you are creating it, and on some level you asked for it.
3) Witness your attachments
Fear will only arise through this process if you hold attachments or needs around a certain person or circumstance. If your happiness, identity, sense of self-worth, value and security is tied up in these external circumstances, you will experience pain, struggle and suffering if they are taken away. As these patterns get triggered, observe these attachments and notice what feelings arise in you.
4) Make room for what is truly right for you
If your life is full and busy with ‘your plans’ there is no room for Universal guidance. And if your mind is set on the ideas of what ‘you’ think is right for you, there is no room for your heart’s whispers. There needs to be space and stillness for you to hear and feel and receive what is truly right for you.
If you are not making room for what is right for your heart and soul, the Universe will manifest circumstances to unfold to ensure that you are. If you are not creating room, it may be created for you.
5) Embrace your emotions as they rise to the surface
It is natural to feel intense emotions as you let go of people or circumstances that feel incredibly important to you. You are allowed to grieve, to cry and to scream, so give yourself full permission to do so. Embrace your emotions without judgment and allow the energies to wash over you. Breathe into them, feel them, journal about them and talk to people. Embrace them fully, but don’t wallow in them.
6) Let the energy withdraw
Pay attention to the sensation of ‘energy withdrawing’ and don’t ignore it when this happens. For me, it feels like the energy is being pulled out of something. I feel less drawn to it and inspired by it. It doesn’t contain the same level of joy. My own energy and enthusiasm around it weakens and wavers. This is usually my indicator that some letting go is happening or will soon be happening. If the energy shifts around something you used to love, then allow it to. Be aware of forcing something or ‘trying’ to get motivated again, as this will cause you to resist what is unfolding.
7) Practise sacred surrender
Letting go facilitates the burning up of your fear-driven egoic self so that you can come into closer connection with your infinite, whole, love-filled spirit. It is the ultimate surrender. The highest form of trust. The greatest catalyst for awakening. If something has been taken from your life or feels like it is falling apart, please let it. Trust that this is all part of you having the room to hear new insights and receive new steps forward.
Letting go is part of your spiritual evolution. By releasing all of the attachments to circumstances or people that hold power over you, you are being guided to reconnect with the power that lies within you.
8) Look out for deadends and roadblocks
The more you see that something is falling apart or withdrawing, the more you may struggle to keep it. You may cling, hold on tighter and work harder at it. Notice the energy. If it is meant to work it will flow, and doors will open. If it is not, then they won’t. You will hit dead ends and brick walls. And if you feel like fighting it initially, then allow yourself to do that. But soon you will grow tired of this, as it will feel like swimming upstream.
9) Let the path be revealed moment by moment
This is present moment living as it’s best. Letting go requires you to place your trust and faith in what you cannot yet see. All you must do is take whatever one step (no matter how small) presents itself in that moment. As you take that step the next one will appear. That is your only work right now.
10) Trust that your life is upgrading
Life is not punishing you by taking something from you. It is bringing you exactly what you need to experience to amplify your growth, awaken your consciousness, and heal your old wounds. You are upgrading to the next level in your life. The new circumstances you manifest are all being orchestrated so that you can experience greater amounts of love, abundance, happiness and freedom.
Please know that anytime you are letting go, you are just making room for something even more magnificent to flow into your life. Don’t just grieve what you are losing, but get excited about what is coming.
11) Centre yourself in the unknown
Your struggle with letting go will be amplified by any fear you hold about the unknown, or uncertainty. You will feel out of control. You will no longer be able to plan. You will not know what the future holds. You will begin to see with confronting clarity, just how much you rely on your external circumstances (and your ability to control them) to make you feel safe. This is where you must begin to find your certainty and stability within.
12) Access your body wisdom
The more that you try to understand or ‘make sense’ of what is unfolding, the more confused you will become. You will find the most peace – not in being able to analyse or understand the process – but in your ability to become present, get still and tune in to your body to feel. All your answers will arise from a deeper space within you, and your body will communicate this wisdom through your sensations, feelings and energy.
Check in with your body as you feel into what is next for you. Notice what makes your body soften, expand and lighten. Notice what makes you contract and tighten. Let it guide you to what you need to release and what new actions steps you are being called to take.
13) Open your mind to magic
Perhaps what is coming lays outside the scope of what you could ever imagine is possible for you. So don’t limit your new beginnings. Let them be fresh, unfamiliar and foreign. Let them astound you with how perfectly they match what you have been asking for all along. What if what was coming was better than anything you have ever conceived? Get excited, because I have a feeling it is.
A little update from me: Right now, I am simply being asked to let go of a lot and make space. I am not sure what for as yet, but I know it is going to be good. I am simply being told that there is more love, abundance, joy and expansion available for me and I simply have to make space to receive it. So that is what I am doing.
Thank you for your endless love and support.